Discover how you came to believe if you are (or aren't) amazing

This is an amazing photo of an eight week old foetus taken using ultrasound. Until now the foetus has grown in exactly the same way for both a boy and a girl. But at eight weeks old their brains start to become very different because of the flood of testosterone if it is a boy.

That flood of testosterone will cause some of the communication cells to be destroyed and cells in the sex and aggression centres to grow and increase. Boys are born wanting to get to know their surroundings, interested in everything from the Christmas tree lights to your car keys. They don't want to spend time gazing into your face and learn about facial expressions and moods. As they develop into toddlers they are into everything and anything. If you have had boys you will know what I mean.

Little girls, from the moment they can focus, want to gaze at faces and study facial expressions. By the time they are toddlers they can tell from your face if you are happy or cross, upset or confused. They will look to you for guidance and support. A glance from you tells that they can or can't touch something.

Being listened to, even before they can construct a sentence is very important to them. They want your full attention and they want you to be happy about it. As a toddler a girl will do everything she can to get an adult to smile at her and most of her attention is focused on her parents. If she repeatedly gets a flat face because of depression or disinterest, or a sad or cross face, she will believe that it is because she isn't liked by her parents and she will look for that recognition from other people. It could be her older siblings or other adults in her life. She can make it mean that she isn't worthy and develop a lack of self-worth that can stay with her for years and affect every aspect of her life.

But if she is listened to, focused on with love and affection and happy faces (most of the time) she will believe that she is wonderful and worthwhile.

What this means is that if you are one of the women in this world who believe that they are not enough and have a low self-esteem it not you but what your very young brain made it mean all those years ago. And here is the good news. You can change that belief for one that recognises that you are amazing.

Enjoy being you
Sarah