Foodie Friday - 3 people who sabotage weight loss

Does this sound familiar? You are doing really well with your new eating plan and people have started to notice that you are changing shape. They may even comment on how great you look. And then they start to offer you cake.

There is always a reason that they are offering you a slice of cake. Maybe it is someones birthday, they are celebrating an event in their lives such as the cat having kittens, or just because it is Monday, or Friday or any other reason they can think of to feed you cake.

Why would they do this? Do they want you to go back to the beginning again? The short answer is 'Yes' but it isn't quite that simple.

There are several reasons why people who like and love you will attempt to sabotage your diet and whilst there are lots of reasons in their minds, the actual reason usually falls into one of three categories:

• Reality has hit them between the eyes because they also want to loose weight and you are reminding them of this. Subconsciously they decide that if they keep you at the same weight they won't feel so bad about putting off doing something about their weight.
• Fear about you changing. This may sound strange but subconsciously they are scared that if you change on the outside you may also change on the inside, which could mean that you change how you feel about being friends/in a relationship with them. 
• Confusion about why you would want to change how you look. They like and/or love you just as you are so why would you want to change? They may also have the type of body make-up which means that they have never had to worry about weight gain or weight loss and so they want you to be able to eat all your favourite foods and to forget about changing to a new way of eating.

Nearly everyone who tries to sabotage your diet is working from deep subconscious feelings rather than conscious awareness. It isn't done with intent to harm you but rather to protect themselves.

Fortunately there are various ways in which you can maintain your friendships and relationships and still stick to your new way of eating to enjoy easy and permanent weight loss. More of this next week.

If you have any queries or would like an answer to your particular situation you can place a question in the comment box below or email me at sarah@beautifullybalanced.com.au

wishing you success in 2014
Sarah